1 day ago by Bereaved Parents of the USAI'm not crazy... I'm grieving...1 day ago Tina Mcconnell 2
Wow! I really thought I was going off the deep end. It's better now but I really have to try hard.1 day ago Amanda Simonian 1
Amen to this. This was my brain for years after our son died.14 hours ago Linda Sherrill
So very true!8 hours ago Dawn Smith
5 days ago by Bereaved Parents of the USAHi, I'm a bereaved mom of a 20 yr; old son and 4 pregnancy losses. I recently had a book published on 2/15/17. I was wondering if you can help me get the word out. It is currently available at 2 locations: http://www.xulonpres...BN=9781498496728
1 week ago by Bereaved Parents of the USAWill you sit with me in my pain?1 week ago Lisa Morrison 3
So true 🙁1 week ago Nicki Rix 1
Yes.1 week ago Julie Appelgren 1
Yeah, so true 🙁1 week ago Trudi McLeod 1
So true....... after everyone went home their lives continued.....I am fused to that place in time forever 😢1 week ago Dena Lahti 1
So true 😢1 week ago Melisa C. Williams 1
So true1 week ago Barbara Bennett 1
If I could have run away from me, I would have, but I stuck with my sad self and waited for me to get better. <31 week ago Manisone Luangrath 1
I am here when you need me1 week ago Jean ODonnell 1
Great way to describe it. It such a let down and you feel so lonely with your thoughts1 week ago Ann Comstock Maki
Just how I've been feeling.1 week ago Carissa Maki Leapley 1
My heart is so broken. Life certainly isn't fair. If only all of our love and prayers could make it a tiny bit better. But there is just no way it can....other than living each day, as Will would want you to...and also knowing that Will is still with you/us in spirit. There is no doubt about that. I'm sending a huge hug to you and hope to get together sometime soon. You let me know when you're ready.1 week ago Ann Comstock Maki
Thanks. Tonight is just a rough one.1 week ago Teresa Golden Fridland
So very sad😢. Your always in my thoughts and prayers Ann.1 week ago Teresa Golden Fridland
I'm so sorry. Breaks my heart.
1 week ago by Bereaved Parents of the USAKeeping your memory alive...1 week ago Erin Grewe Maloney 3
So very thankful for the bench that sits on the Elementary playground in our small town, reminding all who sit there or pass by that my sweet girl did exist and will always exist in my heart!1 week ago Kathy Jenkins Corrigan 2
21 years of carrying the memory torch for me... I stay in touch with Michael's friends -- they are always happy to share a story about him... I am so grateful for them and their memories of Michael...1 week ago Susan Jones 1
💔1 week ago Jeri Gething 1
I imagine every bereaved parent "fears" their child becoming "a memory". This is a sweet story that (even though my child really an adult, but to me still my child) I can relate to what she is saying about the small memories of things they said and did. My daughter is more than just a memory to me, and I love to say her name out loud and tell my memory stories. I want to hear others do the same !! Tell me what you remember about her please. That's how you keep her memory alive!!1 week ago Nicole Brideau 1
I also put an "inukshuk" memorial at my daughter's high school & at her accident sight. She built inukshuks wherever she went ... I will continue to place them in her memory. She was here, she was real ... I carry the pain of her absence every day 💔1 week ago Bo Domzalski
Seeing Kristin being 13 months old and having leukemia.1 week ago Bereaved Parents of the USA
I'm so sorry... I'm sure you must feel so cheated but I know there must be moments of fleeting joy in her very short lifetime... Sending hugs to you
2 weeks ago by Bereaved Parents of the USA10 Ways to Grow in Love: On Valentine’s Day, and Every Day
Here are 10 ways to get you started growing in love. Pick one, or two, or all, and give them a try. By discovering a new way to do Valentine’s Day you just might discover something of great value: hope, healing, self-worth, and yes, greater love. Practice opening your heart. This is a simple, important way to start. If our heart isn’t open, it’s hard to grow in love. Try this: Sit in a quiet place and breathe deeply. Focus on your heart as you continue to breathe. Does it feel open, relaxed, and ready to give and receive love? Or, does it feel closed and guarded? Just notice it, but don’t judge, as you breathe. Think of someone you love dearly. Picture them vividly in your mind. What do you love about them? How do they make you feel? Purposefully open your heart to that love. Continue to breathe as you focus on feeling greater love for them and keeping your heart open. Practice opening your heart for five minutes, and then, continue to open your heart throughout the day. When you feel your heart closing, take a deep breath and open again. It may be difficult at first, but if you practice each day, you will become more open to the gift of love. Practice self-love. It’s true we cannot give what we do not possess. If we don’t love ourselves, it’s Give yourself a little love, or help someone else get a loving break.
Give yourself a little love, or help someone else get a loving break.
very hard to love others and grow in love. Start practicing self-love. Do something kind for yourself today. Nothing too fancy or extravagant, but something that helps you feel self-love. It could be a hot bath, a walk with a friend, a trip to the mall, a movie night, or anything you need. Whatever you’d do to show someone else kindness, do that for yourself today. (More on how to practice self-love here.) Serve. It doesn’t matter whom. It doesn’t matter how. Service is healing to the grieving heart, and to us all. Listen to a friend in need, volunteer at a food bank, or visit someone who’s in the hospital. Just serve. In your own way. Your heart will soar in love as a result. Do an anonymous act of kindness today. Pay for someone else’s meal, pick up trash in someone’s yard, drop cookies on someone’s doorstep. Look for opportunities to do an act of kindness, and take it. Send a card or note to someone who’s lost love recently—on Valentine’s Day, or on any day. Let them know you’re thinking of them and that you remember their loved one, too. When my youngest sister, Miki, died at age 8, her best friend continued to bring my mom flowers every year on Miki’s birthday. We will never forget that act of love. Gestures such as this can mean the world to the grieving, and healing, heart. (More on Helping Others Through Grief & Loss, here) Offer to watch someone’s children while they go for an evening out. Help a mother, father, or couple to get time together or an evening out with friends, to give them a break from the job of parenting and refresh them. Call a friend or family member you haven’t spoken to in a while. Tell them, “I was just thinking about you and want to hear all about your life.” It’s not only giving love, it’s helping you receive greater friendship and love in return. Give a big smile and say “Hello!” to strangers. You never know who needs that smile and acknowledgement. You could make someone’s day or even be a turning point in their life. And, when you put love out, you get so much more in return. Receive love. When someone offers you a compliment, a kind word, a loving gesture—say, “Thank you,” and mean it. Don’t push love away. Breathe, and let it in. It will fill and grow you, and you’ll have so much more love to give. Hug as many people as you can. I am a hugger. I know the power of a love-filled hug. You’d be surprised how many people are craving for that little bit of love through a hug. Especially those who’ve lost a spouse or partner; give them a hug. Don’t worry about what they will think. If you’re doing it out of genuine love, it will always be well-received. Hug as often as others let you; it will heal you both and help you grow in love.
2 weeks ago by Bereaved Parents of the USAThank you all for helping. Your sharing of stories has been most helpful and has given some comfort. My son Dustin was unexpectedly taken 5 weeks ago and every day is a challenge, again Thank you all so much.5 days ago Judy Sadler 1
I am very sorry about your sad loss. It is almost a year since my daughter's death (Feb 22) and I am feeling a little better. The passing of time has helped me accept the reality of her death. I hope it helps you, too.3 days ago Judy Sadler 1
We have a "Survivors" group in my town that is helpful. Perhaps starting a group yourself if there is isn't one would help you and help others. Best wishes to you and your family on this sad journey. Be patient with yourself and know that your feelings are like being on a roller coaster, and they are all normal reactions to grief. The book, How to go on Living When Someone You Love Dies, by Therese Rando, is very helpful.3 days ago Lori Giddens
Thank you so much for your comment, it is very encouraging to me, I've over come a lot of things in my life but this is the hardest I've never had to face, I continue to pray to the Lord for strength to get me and my family through this heart breaking time.1 day ago Lori Giddens
Thank you Judy Sadler.3 days ago Lori Giddens
And I'm so sorry for your loss.2 days ago Bereaved Parents of the USA 13 days ago Bobbie West
I hope & how soon you can start getting a little better. God bless you and put is arms around you. Love mom
2 weeks ago by Bereaved Parents of the USALove Yourself on Valentines Day All Kind of Steps <3 Recognize your limitations. Don’t push yourself into an activity you're not up to.
<3 Treat yourself. Taking budget into consideration, take yourself out for a day of relaxation – whatever that means to you. It may be a spa treatment, retail therapy, or a monster truck rally; as long as it relieves stress or makes you smile, anything goes.
<3 Deliberately set aside time to engage in any activity that helps you cope with grief – exercise, yoga, journaling, art, etc.
<3 Allow yourself to be really present with your loved ones memory and allow yourself to cry for as long as you like. We all have our rituals and reminders that bring us close to our loved ones, go ahead and engage in them.
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